There is a certain amount of decorum that I have for some illogical reason come to expect from so-called adult African-American men when they are either in the company of or referring to African-American women. I am also certain that if you are a rational human being who has had any exposure to a fair sample size of African-American males that you also realize that I am grossly disappointed with the manner in which many, most certainly not all, Black males consider the women who have historically birthed, considered, coddled, comforted, and aided them in what often amounted to selfless unconscionable ways that no other population of women would ever do for even their own kind.
Let me make this plain, if you are an African-American male who does not hold the Black women in the highest place possible, you are an individual who fails to realize that in doing so you have made a conscious decision to “cut off your nose to spite your face.”
Considering that what I just penned most likely flew over your head, let me say it in the simplest language possible; “Black man, if you do not cherish the Black women you are quite simply in desperate need of a real world education regarding the path that Black women have paved for every Black man existing today. Without them, we would be extinct.”
Maybe you were fortunate enough to miss the most recent ignorance to fly out of a somewhat notable African-American male’s mouth on social media. The individual whom I am referring to is none other than Florida based rapper ‘Trick Daddy’ — a dubious name in and of itself — who took it upon himself to warn Black women that “These Spanish, these white hoes…they done started getting finer than a mother*cka. Ya’ll black hoes betta tighten up…(if non-Black women learn to fry chicken) black hoes will officially be useless.”
Only in America would it be permissible for a figure such as ‘Trick Daddy’ to voice such ignorance into a public space.
As an educated African-American I am actually unsure if I am more offended that ‘Trick Daddy’ has reduced the needs of Black men to merely having a fine ‘Spanish or white hoe’ who can fry chicken or what such a statement means in the larger scheme of things. Actually, I do know which offends me more, it is the latter.
Although I would love to say that ‘Trick Daddy’ is an anomaly in regards to African-American males continuing failure to understand even the most basic aspects of choosing a mate to produce and raise children with, he is in many ways ‘par for the course’ when examining this matter. One of the most obvious examples of the failure of many Black men to choose a suitable mate is found in their pre-occupation with superficial characteristics such as the eroding physical beauty of women or even more ridiculous is the adoration of the hair that adorning her hair, yet is not growing out of her own hair follicles. I am certain that many brothers will take great issue with what I am saying, however, it must be said.
Although it is a harsh reality to accept, the truth of the matter is that there is no balm to be found for the voluminous political, social, historical, economic, and cultural maladies afflicting Black men to be found between the legs of any woman, regardless of their race, the length of their hair, or even if their racial/ethnic background has been so muddled through the centuries that your ignorant ass is forced to refer to her as an ‘exotical’.
However, all is not lost, you can reverse your current course if you so desire. The first step toward addressing a life that has become so painful to live that you are now cursing your mother, even if indirectly, your aunts, your sisters, and your daughters by swearing off the comforting embrace of a woman who looks like your mama or the sway of the hips that so many Black women have been naturally blessed with that reminds you of your first crush, begins with you and only you. Put simply, stop blaming Black women for your inadequacies, inefficiencies, and failings in life.
Any African-American male who has been able to build a stable family will tell you through experience that whom you mate with matters greatly in regards to where you are headed as a man. Such men would advise you to pay more attention to the expansiveness of a potential mate’s brain than the plumpness of her derriere. Unfortunately, a figure such as ‘Trick Daddy’ and the droves of those who emanate from similar viewpoints refuse to follow such tried and true practices that have worked for our people for centuries; failure to do such most certainly places you in peril.
In many ways it is poetic justice that they pay the price for their poor decision-making. The great social critic James Baldwin said it in this way, “People pay for what they do, and still more for what they have allowed themselves to become, and they pay for it, very simply, by the lives they lead.”
It is this failure that makes the following information not only likely, but also predictable for African-American males who chose to follow the gospel of the greatest Trick of them all, ‘Trick Daddy’.
Trick Daddy has filed for bankruptcy because, according to him … he’s got next to ZERO money in the bank, and his baby mama bills keep piling up.
The Miami rapper filed for Chapter 11 saying he’s got about $430k in assets – which sounds decent, except he’s also $645k in the red! Including: $34,837 child support to one mother, $22,282 to another, $290k in back taxes, and $280k for his first mortgage. (TMZ)
The only thing that I could say to a figure such as ‘Trick Daddy’ or the droves of ignorant males that follow him is that they need to go and get a ‘life coach’ or something, embrace the fact that they are Black and that Black women are absolutely unrivaled in their beauty; and then go out onto the street, any street, and apologize to every Black woman for the evil that you kind has done for centuries.
Dr. James Thomas Jones III
© Manhood, Race and Culture, 2016